Dating Your Best Friend
Dating and meeting new people is very exciting. But what if you have an affair with your friend? Does it make sense to put friendship at risk, or such a relationship is doomed to failure? We suggest that you consider the pros and cons of dating your best friend.
Advantages of Dating Your Best Friend
You won’t waste time getting to know each other
When planning the date you have no dilemma: should I bring my partner to the movies or to offer him a leisurely bike ride. Also, you don’t have to think about which restaurant to go to – Chinese or Indian. If you are friends, you probably know about each other’s tastes. In addition, you definitely have common interests, and therefore topics for conversation. So you don’t have to face a situation where a couple on a date can’t think of anything to talk about. Therefore, if chemistry is added to such a harmonious relationship, then the romance of two friends has every chance of success.
He won’t be “not right” person
It happens that you meet a man, you like him… And during the conversation, it turns out that it’s like you’re from different planets. You have nothing to talk about, nothing in common. This won’t happen to your friend, of course.
You don’t have to pretend
There will be no need to play touchy person or femme fatale with your friend. He knows what you really are.
You’ve already seen each other in the best and worst moments of your life
If you’ve been friends for a while, you’ve probably seen how your boyfriend or girlfriend behaves in a relationship. This is a good starting point both if you want to have an affair, and if you realize that nothing will come of it.
There is no exciting moment of meeting your parents
If you have been friends for a long time, then most likely your parents already know this person well. After all, they probably met during some holidays and events. But even if you live far away from your family, you probably mentioned your friend’s name in a conversation with your loved ones. You’ll feel comfortable and confident knowing that your family has a good opinion of your partner.
You don’t have to worry about integrating a partner into your company
Many people are worried about introducing their soulmate to their friends. After all, you can never be sure whether they will like each other and how long it will take for your partner to feel comfortable in a new company. If you are friends for a while, then you will not have to think about such problems. After all, most of your friends probably know each other well.
Disadvantages of Dating Your Best Friend
You have something to lose
You need to face the truth. After all, if your romance ends badly, then you can hardly turn back the clock and get back to your old lives. Surely now there will be resentments and disappointments between you that won’t allow you to become friends again.
Your relationship will be different
It used to be possible to tell him everything in the world, because he was a friend. When he becomes a lover, some things will be awkward to discuss.
No surprise effect
The most exciting thing at the beginning of a relationship is getting to know a person. What kind of coffee he likes, how much time he spends in the gym, what is the name of his dog and who is his favorite football player. There will be no such pleasant surprises with a friend.
And he isn’t destined to be surprised and admired when he first sees you in leather trousers. After all, he has already seen you in a variety of outfits, even in a Halloween costume.
You’ll start fighting faster than other couples. You’re used to saying everything to each other directly, so you’re unlikely to stand on ceremony in a relationship.
The first intimacy can be awkward. And even funny: after all, you shared so many intimate details with each other. Now you’re together… However, this moment will quickly pass, giving way to new sensations.
He knows all about your past romances
This can be considered both a plus and a minus. Anyway, your friend probably knows about the skeletons in your closet. But if you started Dating a stranger, it would take time for them to learn something from your past. On the one hand, this frees you from having to share some unpleasant moments from your life with your partner. But also your friend is very knowledgeable about the details of all your stories, which makes you somewhat vulnerable and defenseless.
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